Most people have broken dreams, ideas about people or reality that they had in their youth that could not be satisfied. Ideal lover’s thrive on people’s broken dream. If you seek romance or adventure, the ideal lover will be there to reflect your fantasy.
Casanova might be the most successful seducer in history, few women could resist him.
He had a simple method, he studied the woman he was after, went along with her moods, figured out what she was missing, and provided it. The bored wife that needed adventure and romance needed someone to sacrifice time and comfort for her.
The main dangers in the role of the Ideal Lover are the consequences that arise if you let reality creep in. You are creating a fantasy that involves an idealization of your own character. And this is a precarious task, for you are human, and imperfect.
The Art of Seduction, Robert Greene
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The Ideal Lover is rare in today’s world. This role requires effort.
You need to focus intensely on the other person, understand what they are missing, and what they are disappointed by.
People will often give clues in subtle ways, such as gesture, tone of voice, or a look in the eye.
By appearing to them as the thing that they are lacking; you fit their ideal.
The effort is in the patience and attention to detail. Most people don’t really think much about others; they are totally wrapped up in their own desires, disappointments, and feelings. They are not capable of fulfilling The Ideal Lover role.
This could be a source of endless opportunity.
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Be an oasis in the desert of the self-absorbed; few can resist the temptation of following a person who seems so attuned to their desires, to bringing to
life their fantasies.