To learn how to seduce with words, either in written or in oral form, you must learn to get outside yourself. Words are not there only so they you can express what you want and your opinions, they can be used to evoke emotion. Master the use of speech, learn how to be poetic but not pretentious, expressive but not annoying, and you will conquer the heart that you desire.
The word “diabolic” means to separate, to throw things apart. The more you can get people to focus on your sweet-sounding language, the more you can inspire fantasies and illusions in their minds, the more you remove them from reality. You can take them to the clouds, where truth and untruth look indistinguishable. Keep your words ambiguous, so people can never be sure what you mean. The more they are taken by this illusion, the easier your seduction becomes.
If you cannot master the use of language, then at least know when to stop talking. Most importantly, do not argue, nothing is more anti seductive than that. It is better to use words to flatter, but keep in mind that not any kind of flattery will work, you should know your target well. If they are someone endowed with beauty, it would not be smart to compliment them about their beauty, you must find their insecurity. The thing that they do not feel confident about. If they are successful architects but like to dabble in music, then you must compliment their musical skills.
Otherwise, understand what they want to hear. Perhaps it is a certain opinion that is expressed that resembles their own.
Usually, we use language instinctively, we don’t think before we talk, because we are self-absorbed. Nothing interests us more than ourselves, but in the game of seduction, this can be limiting.
The key to seductive language is not the words you utter, or your seductive tone of voice; it is a radical shift in perspective and habit. You have to stop saying the first thing that comes to your mind—you have to control the urge to prattle and vent your opinions. The key is to see words as a tool not for communicating true thoughts and feelings but for confusing, delighting, and intoxicating.
Robert Greene, The Art of Seduction
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